Navigating Grief During the Holidays: Finding Joy and Connection

Written By: Kelsey Brannock, ATR-BC

The holiday season can be especially challenging for those who are grieving. Whether you’ve recently lost a loved one, are navigating the anniversary of their passing, or are experiencing grief from other life changes—such as divorce, job loss, or the end of a cherished relationship—it’s important to recognize that grief comes in many forms. You might experience feelings of sadness, anger, or confusion, but you may also find moments of joy and connection. Experiencing multiple emotions at once is perfectly normal and is to be expected throughout any grieving process.

Here are some of the types of grief you may be encountering:

• Anticipatory Grief: This occurs before a loss, as you mentally and emotionally prepare for a significant change.

• Complicated Grief: Characterized by prolonged and intense sorrow, this type can make it hard to move forward.

• Disenfranchised Grief: This occurs when your loss may not be publicly acknowledged or validated by others, such as the end of a friendship or loss of a pet.

• Collective Grief: This arises from shared losses within a community or society, which can be particularly significant during the holidays.

As you move through this season, consider these tips for managing your grief while honoring your loved one’s memory and acknowledging other forms of loss:

1. Create New Traditions: Establish rituals that honor your loved one or the experience you’re grieving. This could be lighting a candle in memory of a friend, preparing a favorite dish, or celebrating what was meaningful to you.

2. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Allow yourself to feel both joy and sorrow. It’s okay to laugh and enjoy moments while still holding your grief close. Embrace the complexity of your emotions.

3. Connect with Others: Share your feelings with friends or family who understand. You might also consider joining a support group where you can connect with others experiencing similar losses.

4. Practice Self-Care: Take time for yourself. Whether it’s going for a walk, journaling, or practicing mindfulness, self-care is essential for healing. Prioritize activities that nurture your well-being.

5. Honor All Types of Grief: Recognize that grief can stem from many life changes. Allow yourself to grieve both small and large losses and be gentle with yourself as you process these feelings.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Allowing yourself to fully experience your emotions can lead to a deeper connection with yourself, as well as deeper connections with others.

If you’re looking for additional support this holiday season and you’d like to learn how to practice the concepts listed here, consider joining our upcoming Holiday Support Group.

Call today to start individual grief therapy or for more information about our services - 754 308 5525. Together, we can navigate this holiday season with love, support and compassion.