New Year, New Mindset! Redefining Resolutions for Overall Well-Being
Written By: Kelsey Brannock, Registered Art Therapist
As the year winds down and the New Year approaches, many of us begin to reflect on the past and set well-intentioned goals for the future. New Year’s resolutions are a common tradition, usually driven by a sense of hope and optimism. While setting goals can certainly be empowering, it is also important to also recognize the possibility of the unintended negative consequences they can have on our mental health. In this post, we explore five ways resolutions can become harmful, as well as healthier suggestions for achieving positive change.
1. Unrealistic Expectations
The Problem: How many of us have begun the New Year with lofty aspirations only to quickly find that the goal was too much to sustain consistently? Setting unrealistic goals can set the stage for disappointment, which can make someone feel like they are the problem or a failure. This can contribute to lower self-esteem and poor overall mental well-being.
The Solution: Instead of aiming for radical transformations, focus on setting realistic and achievable goals. Break down larger goals into smaller, more manageable steps. Be sure to celebrate all the progress along the way - both big and small! Allow your process of change to be gradual, not immediate.
2. Perpetuating Negative Self-Criticism
The Problem: Resolutions can sometimes cause us to fall into a cycle of constantly criticizing ourselves. While self-development is important, focusing only on your flaws or shortcomings can certainly contribute to stress, anxiety, and a sense of inadequacy.
The Solution: Cultivate self-compassion by looking for your positive qualities and treating yourself with the same kindness that you might offer a friend. While on your journey of improved wellness, remember that setbacks are natural and they are opportunities for further growth, not reasons to self-blame.
3. Lack of Flexibility
The Problem: Similar to having unrealistic expectations, some people may approach New Year’s Resolutions with an inflexible mindset, adhering strictly to predetermined schedules or goals. Rigid thinking can lead to stress and anxiety when faced with unexpected challenges or changes from original plans.
The Solution: Adaptability is so important for the process of positive change. Life can come at you fast and it’s important to be able to roll with the punches during those times. This may mean adjusting your goals as time evolves. Embrace flexibility and remember that the path to improvement is rarely ever linear.
4. External Validation and Superficial Changes
The Problem: New Year’s Resolutions tend to inspire changes that can be more superficial in nature, often focusing on appearance, extreme dieting and exercise, and unrealistic beauty standards. These kinds of goals, especially when driven by a desire for external validation or societal approval, can contribute to unhealthy behaviors and poor mental health.
The Solution: Try shifting the focus inward and allow yourself to set intentions that align with your values and sincere interests. Instead of focusing on how you may appear on the outside, consider how you feel on the inside. Intrinsic motivation will always produce a more authentic sense of fulfillment, which will foster growth and positive change beyond external expectations.
5. Not addressing Underlying Issues
The Problem: Sometimes New Year’s Resolutions can focus on surface-level changes and fail to address underlying emotional or psychological concerns. Ignoring deep-rooted issues can perpetuate mental health concerns and limit meaningful growth and healthy change.
The Solution: Provide space for personal introspection before setting resolutions, while paying attention to emotional or mental considerations. Seek the support of a therapist or trusted support person to help you to explore root causes and assist you in navigating your process of self-growth and lasting change.
While the New Year can be a time that inspires motivation, reflection and positive growth, it’s important to approach resolutions mindfully. By setting realistic goals, practicing self-compassion and flexibility, prioritizing intrinsic motivation and seeking support, you can navigate the new year with a healthy mindset!
Remember, positive change is a journey, not a destination and at Lighter Living Counseling, we are always here to support you along the way!
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